Practice, Practice, Practice

I’m going to say this straight out, rather than ease you and me into it, and possibly lose some of you in the process: I believe that God communicated with me with words.

It was last fall, just as I was realizing that all the work I’d put into the David and Saul story was coming to nothing. There were a couple of rejections yet to arrive, but most of them had come in with no requests for more material. My queries were dead on arrival. Even the two publishing contacts I’d made in person came to nothing, as well. Not “no’s,” but nothing; no communication at all. I’d been so hopeful. This was the project that could really go somewhere. It felt so different from any of the other work I’d done, better, right-er. It was the idea I’d been praying for, the idea that brought together so many of my passions. And then zilch.

So I went outside to do some raking and complaining to God. And then this message filled me (I say that because I didn’t hear an audible voice, just a strong impression of these specific words):

“Just because my hand is on you, doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy.”

On the one hand, this is confirmation: God’s hand is on me.

On the other hand, it’s going to be hard.

God is rarely this clear with me. When he’s communicated something specific before, it’s subject to interpretation. It’s more usual for God to communicate with me by what I call piling on: the same word or idea coming at me from everywhere. Recently it’s been the word “practice” — prayer practice, writing practice, Pilates practice, spiritual practice, practice, practice, practice. A good friend who is a spiritual director and a poet is the one who started it: “That’s why we call it a practice, because we’re not very good at it yet.”

Because I’m not very good at it. Yet.

Indeed, the book project I’d been so dejected about: there was a big hole in it. I needed my winter of whine to make me realize it. So I put in the work this spring.¬†Writing practice.

I recently added something to my prayer practice. Most days, I write my prayers, freeform, but after my friend the spiritual director/poet recited the following prayer at book club and I cried my way through the whole thing, I knew I had to add it. It speaks hard to me as a writer, impatient for success, for publication. For (dare I say it) validation.

The author is fascinating, as well, and I plan to look into his life in more detail: he was a Jesuit paleontologist during the first half of the 20th century. He studied evolution and explored the spiritual implications of that scientific work. Look for something about him in the future here at won*der.

For now, here is Pierre Teilhard de Chardin’s prayer:

Above all, trust the slow work of God.
We are, quite naturally,
impatient in everything to reach the end
without delay.
We should like to skip
the intermediate stages.
We are impatient of being on
the way to something unknown,
something new,
and yet it is the law of all progress
that it is made by passing through
some stages of instability —
and it may take a very long time.
And so I think it is with you.
Your ideas mature gradually —
let them grow,
let them shape themselves,
without undue haste.
Don’t try to force them on,
as though you could be today
what time (that is to say, grace and
circumstances acting
on your own good will)
will make them tomorrow.
Only God could say what this new spirit
gradually forming within you will be.
Give our Lord the benefit of believing
that his hand is leading you,
and accept the anxiety of
feeling yourself in suspense
and incomplete.

There are so many moments in this prayer that pierce me. “the slow work of God.” “And so I think it is with you.” “his land is leading you.” “accept the anxiety.” “in suspense and incomplete.”

This is hard.

But I’m practicing. This past weekend I stepped out big time to attend a writer’s retreat, the Renew and Refine Retreat for Writers. It was small. Fewer than 20 people. There would be no hiding. I was anxious. Okay, I was terrified. I would have to put myself out there as a writer, with other writers. But I accepted the anxiety and went and met wonderful people. We laughed and cried and prayed and worked together in the kitchen and ate very, very well. I was so deeply encouraged by my time with them, both specifically (after I read my work) and generally, as kindred spirits driven/called to work out our faith and our lives in words that we are driven/called to share. I hope I was able to encourage even one person there as much as I was.

So I’m moving ahead with a little more courage than I was before. Revising my materials. Getting ready to send out It Is You again.

Practicing my trust of the slow work of God. His hand is on me. But it isn’t going to be easy.

What are you practicing? What might accepting the anxiety give you the courage to do?




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12 thoughts on “Practice, Practice, Practice

  1. I’m so glad that I was not the only one to be scared out of mind to attend this retreat. But I needed to practice being brave and not hiding behind other people and letting their voices speak for me.

    1. Yes, I’ve gotten to the point where I assume I’m not going to be the only one who’s freaked out (as opposed to assuming that everyone else is totally secure), and don’t let it stop me anymore. Glad you didn’t let it stop you, either. Glad you were there.

  2. Ooh, the feeling of “incomplete”. I loved the poem and found so much of it to be true. But this feeling of incomplete is so anti-cultural. We hate it… but it is there we find our absolute need for God. Tough… but a great reminder.

    Thanks for sharing!

    1. Thanks, Amy. Good angle on it, that the incompleteness is where we find our need for God.

  3. I am so excited for you to send it out again. I”m not even your demographic and I am desperate to read the rest! When you were reading all I could think was that I needed to remember this, because someday I could tell my girls that I was once in a room with you, hearing you read your words!

    1. Thank you, Brenna. The support in the room that night was so very, very important to me — still makes me cry, in fact.

  4. I’m honored that you struggled through your fear and gave of yourself.

    I so enjoyed your participation and hearing your YA piece.

    I’m new to your blog, but now I’m hooked!


    1. Thank you, Lisa. After this weekend, I’ve got so many more blogs I’m hooked on — a lovely “problem” to have.

  5. ‘accept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete’

    I feel like I need to tattoo this on myself and look at it all the time. If I accept the anxiety instead of fighting against it, maybe I’ll find the direction I’m longing for.

    Thank you for this post.

  6. I’m working on focusing more on specific goals. I sometimes become a victim of having too many ideas or goals, and it makes for a cluttered mess that stops me cold in my tracks.

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