My earliest memory is of injuring my little brother and being consumed with guilt and worry.
I was 4, my brother 2. We lived in a construction zone. My parents bought a hippie squatter house in Toronto in the early 1970s. Every room was painted differently: black-out, neon splatter, each wall a different color. They got it for $1 down because it was in such rough shape. The first night, they tucked us into bed on mattresses on the floor, went downstairs, picked up sledgehammers and started making the space their own.
They eventually took every wall down to the studs, removed interior walls, smashed the kitchen cabinets and re-built everything themselves according to my dad’s research in home design and efficiency. I loved that house. But on this day, there was nothing: no walls, no cabinets, no furniture.
No barrier at the edge of the first floor and its open drop to the basement.
But there was a big, enticing rope laying about.
While I was generally very well behaved (to the point of goody-two-shoes-edness), I was still a kid. My brother and I picked up either end of the rope and ran around yanking on it. I’m sure we thought we were having the best time ever. I wondered,
“What would happen if I let go?”
I did, and my cute little brother with the big head fell onto the concrete floor of the basement.
I only have a vague memory of the rope and the wondering and the light being diffused by the ever-present construction dust. My vivid memory is of sitting on a sawhorse with a large woman from our church; she comforted me as I cried, guilty that it was all my fault and scared that he had to go to the hospital.
He lived. And thrived. And cracked his skull several other times as a result of his own risk-taking.
It took another 20 years for me to get over my big sister over-protectiveness.
How about you? What is your first vivid childhood memory?
Is it sweet? Silly? Angsty? Who else is there with you?
** My mother’s notes on this story: “I had gone to the basement to put in the wash. You kids were on the 2nd floor. The bottom of the stairs [stairs were L-shaped, and this would be the bottom section of the L, 4-5 steps] had been removed and blocked, so how you guys managed to climb over that obstruction and run around in the first floor construction site is still hard to imagine. We had just spent a couple of weeks with Oma and Opa as your dad tore the first floor and bathroom apart and started to rebuild. He was desperate for us to come home. I never thought you two would be so athletic!” **